Romance or sex - what do you fantasise about?

Apparently men like sex. I know, state the bleeding obvious! But new research has revealed that whilst women dream of romantic fireside canoodling and caresses, blokes fantasise about having a threesome or better still a full blown orgy! I suppose it’s nothing new that guys think about group sex and swinging whilst girls like to be wined and dined, romanced and wooed, but it must come as something of a disappointment to fellas that their favourite girl only entertains the mildest of fantasies and usually ones that involve their long term partner exclusively if they are hoping that she will invite a mate round for some saucy fun! The research, carried out by a couple of professors at Granada University in Spain revealed that guys harbour a longing for new sexual scenarios and sensations.

The only light at the end of this tunnel from a guys point of view is that not all women have such modest sexual desires and the rise of what is being called ‘mummy porn’ is leading to more and more women willing to experiment in the bedroom. The most famous of the new breed of erotic literature is the novel ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ in which a wealthy entrepreneur called Christian Grey entices a young graduate student into his bed and into his fantasy world of extreme sex including bondage and sado-masochism.

I tested out the research’s findings with my fellow visiting escorts at Hertfordshire visiting escort services. There was quite a consensus amongst the English escorts and European escorts that love played a big part in their sexual fantasies though a number of the sexy escorts bucked the trend and revealed that full on sexy scenarios involving both men and women rocked their world. I suppose it’s the same with all this research stuff: there will always be people at different ends of the scale. We are all individuals and another thing for me is that it depends when you ask the question. If someone sat me down in a grim and drafty room and said fill in this questionnaire about your sexual desires I don’t think I would give the same answers as I would in a warm and sexy boudoir surrounded by hunky guys and nubile sexy girls dressed to impress! It’s all in the context and anyway, I’m not one for long term relationships preferring instead the heady loved up period when you get it on with a new guy. I like to date and there is a lot of excitement generated by dating new men. The research just confirms what I have always thought – when you are in a relationship for any length of time the heat of passion fizzles out…